No wait, I have returned. I have to yell about something else!
- Trigger warnings are there to warn people with triggers.
- They are there for the mental health and well being of people with triggers.
- They are not about the authors, they are about the readers, who may have triggers.
- They are for people with triggers.
- Not for you.
- If you are using them for any reason other than warning people with triggers, you are being a douche.
They are not about making sure people know X is not okay in real life! That is a value judgement that is offensive in many ways but primarily:
- It says triggery subjects, especially kinks, are inherently bad. This is not right! How people negotiate consent involved in kinks is where the issues are! Bondage isn’t in itself bad!
- More importantly, it reinforces the notions that triggers can only be about “bad” things and if it’s something you think is “good” or innocent, like teddy bears, then it’s not a real trigger and the person is faking. Nooooo! Oh my god no go fuck yourself argh.
Again: Trigger warnings are there for triggers, which can be any variety of things! You don’t have to warn for everything in the world, of course, that would be putting an unrealistic burden on the authors, but you should not be a douche. For the millionth time, put the reader first! Writing can be a fulfilling activity for the writer, but once you publish it it is no longer about you alone. If you can’t deal with that don’t publish it.
Now I must return to my kingdom on the moon.
Sorry in advance if reblogging this up on your dash again puts you in a bad mood.
But I was thinking about it all day in relation to this convo I was part of last night and I want it for reference…
I think I need to apologize for a few things~ ((Would it be presumptuous of me to think it might have been what you were talking about in the first place? The wording/timing is uncanny…))
But anyway… I shouldnt have even called it a trigger warning. Calling it a “content tag” would have been more appropriate. Which was a stupid thing to bring up in the first place because “Dubious Consent” is almost the exact same thing and people use that all the time. ((Dubious is more hesitating rather than straight up resisting tho which is unfortunate but… close enough I suppose. Like you said, naming every little nuance is a burden))
And Wow, yeah sorry. I completely see now how the “They are not about making sure people know X is not okay in real life! That is a value judgement” and ”it reinforces the notions that triggers can only be about “bad” things” Ouch.
I did a really terrible job of approaching that, especially from this angle.
I like my personal value judgments but even if I wanted to express them, Tags are not there for that purpose.
This is me, admitting I made a jackass of myself. I wasn’t 100% understanding what I was talking about. Unfortunately I kinda need to fuck up like this so someone can call me out on it and I can modify my views. Left in silence I would be stuck a jackass forever and not know why so… Thank you for getting mad in a weird way. (Even is it was actually not related to my posts specifically.)
So this is what I’m more thinking along the lines of now, if its still ignorant for some reason I’d be glad to take a verbal lashing for it.
As a reader, It makes me, personally, uncomfortable when a dubious consent work is not tagged as such. If other people enjoy it and want to read it thats fine, but I would like a means to avoid it at least if nothing else.
I do worry when people dont tag it as such because it makes it seem like an okay way to act, but I see now how that is me being judgmental, as result of my previous experiences, of something that I have zero stake/influence in. I’ll try stop thinking like that. My problem with the untagged work should be solely that it is untagged and not drawing any further negative projections beyond that. And stop assuming that not tagging it automatically is an indicator of the authors intent.
……..hmmm….. I’ll probably still keep figuring this out…but thats the end of my stupidity for now…
Okay~ Finally got those Davsprites scanned~ Not gonna have time to color em so there. yes. Okay. Good.
Probably wont be able to draw much for a while. Finals.
Never know tho~